*Checks watch* Yup, it’s been a while. And I’ll tell you why… this is the story (or the striped tale) of my life the past year…
April- I took a LOT of exams. (I was STRESSED!!!) 😥
May- I GRADUATED from college!! (Finally! I took what I am calling a victory lap. Sorry Dad for the extra year of financial aid!) 🎉
June- I got married! (And let me just tell you, it is difficult to plan a wedding. Planning a commitment ceremony is crazy hard especially when not even your body parts want to stay committed to you!) 👰
July- I moved! (It was only a few blocks but it was still hard!) 📦
August- I started my first big girl job where I got to put my degree to the test! (Stressed isn’t the word!) 😭
September- Did y’all see that hurricane? I sat and worried about a lot of people. 😦
October- I got to go to see the Dallas Cowboys play the Redskins! (Keep your opinions to yourself, this is my blog.) 😛
November- I had some terrible medical stuff happen and had to have a procedure done. (I am recovering and doing just fine!) 👩⚕️
December- I was in a wreck! A deer totaled my husband’s car on a trip from my parents house. (Me, my husband and our dog are fine. The car however is a goner!) 🚙
January- Feeling super guilty for not posting since last April!! Oops. To be fair…. over the last few months I have earned my zebra stripes. Y’all, I am ready for life to calm down.
As a teacher, there are many different phrases you hear on a daily basis. Following is a conversation I overhear pretty often.
Student: Can I go to the bathroom?
Teacher: I don’t know, can you?
Student: *ugh* Maaaay I?
The first few times I heard this, I just laughed at the memories that it brought back from my years in school. After a few times, I started to think about the idea of “Can I” vs. “May I”. I realized that those of us that live with a chronic illness don’t have the luxury of asking, “May I”? Much of the time, we are forced to ask ourselves, “Can I?” For example, instead of asking, “May I go dancing with you?”, you are forced to ask, “Can I handle the dancing? Can I handle the pain the next day? Can I get home if I get hurt? Etc.” For those who have chronic pain or illness, the idea of “May I” may not even exist. However, it is important to remember that not all days are bad and that eventually you will have a day that you can ask, “May I?”
Remember zebras, enjoy the EveryDay Successes!
When you hear about EDS for the first time it is only natural to have questions. (I know I would have some.) One of my favorite questions to answer is, “What helps keep you sane?” The answer is simple: Connections.
Connections or people in your corner is the difference in a happy life and a miserable one. I personally have met people in person and online that have helped change my whole perception of the situation I was dealt. Those who are willing to listen and learn about the struggles I have and the good that comes from EDS are the ones I like to keep around. I have some great people in my corner rooting for me. Finding your cheerleaders can be the turning point in your diagnosis and survival. Now, this can also mean you have to make cuts to your team. I have also had to cut people from my “squad”. These people were cut for reasons such as unwillingness to understand or listen to my situation. Do I miss them? Sure. Am I better off? Probably. Cutting those who do not understand and do not seem to put in effort to try can be the hardest thing to do, but ultimately you will be happier and healthier. Spending your time and energy (which you have little of anyway) on someone who isn’t willing to give you a chance is not only physically damaging but mentally and emotionally scaring.
When choosing your team, make sure to pick those who are in it for the long haul and willing to help you along the way.
With EDS or any kind of chronic pain comes Painsomnia. Painsomnia is when you are unable to sleep because of the amount of pain you are in. This happens pretty often and there are nights that I only get three hours of sleep. This makes day 3 hours of sleep in our Countdown to an EDS Christmas! Can’t believe there are only three more days!
As Zebras, spoonies, or chronic illness survivors, we have collections. We’ve discussed this before. Many of us collect specialists as our ever growing collection expands. Right now I have an orthopedic, dermatologist, cardiologist, and OBGYN. And probably more I’m not thinking of. That is why say 4 is specialists for our Countdown to an EDS Christmas.
With dislocations come the techniques that everyone has tried to keep the body parts attached. For me KT tape works the best compared to braces and all. This is why Day 5 is 5 rolls of tape in our Countdown to an EDS Christmas.
There other zebras out there saying, “yesss!”. I’ve is one thing that gives me relief during painful days. I have used ice packs for years. I have at all times at least two packs in the freezer. This makes today, 6 ice packs in our Countdown to an EDS Christmas!